Something really amazing happened to us last week. In this economic climate we sold our house after it had only be listed for 42 days on the market. We got a great offer, it was pretty close to our asking price, the buyer does not have any contingencies regarding selling another house, and they are already pre-approved for a mortgage. We really couldn’t have asked for a better scenario. Granted, it isn’t done until we sign the papers at the closing, but we are that much closer to consolidating our belongings into one place – down at the beach. Having one house will simplify our lives greatly, and from a cash flow perspective it certainly won’t hurt either!
There is one minor issue with all of this. The buyer wants to close (and we have to move out) by July 27th! Oh boy oh boy. We have been in our house for 13 years now and although I like to think that I am pretty ruthless about getting rid of detritus on a semi-regular basis we have a lot of work to do if we are going to be out in one month from today. We also have the one little issue that our beach house is rented through the summer season and we don’t even have access to it until August 20th. At that point we will be able to start converting it to our primary residence from a business property. Ok, I guess that makes two issues.
At this point I am obsessing about what stuff to sell, what stuff to give away, what stuff to pack (and when), how to move the stuff, and where the stuff goes for a month. Never mind that we have to find a temporary home for my husband, me, 3 cats and a 75 gallon fish tank. Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy. I’ll also add in nebulous worries about inspection findings and appraisal results. Gosh I wish I was a laid back person because I already feel like I’m wound too tight and we’re just starting the work.
I’m not sure how much you’ll hear from me over the next month – postings may dwindle to nothing – either that or I might need a place to vent about the silly things that inevitably happen when one moves on a tight deadline. Who knows.
Posted in Personal
Tagged Goals, Stress
I had a delightful week catching up with some of my friends. One of them was a very old friend that I haven’t heard from in over 20 years, the other was a new one that I met at my last full-time gig. The former found my blog and sent me a message, the latter I invited to lunch since she was going to be in town. There really isn’t much that I enjoy more than connecting with someone that I haven’t had a chance to talk to in a while. The extraordinary thing is that in both cases the more that we talked, the more that we found in common with one another.
All I have to say here is –
Has the busy-ness of your life caused you to lose touch with someone that you remember fondly? Is there someone that you’ve been thinking about recently – wondering how they are doing? Contact them! Just do it. It will be worth it.
If there are any more lurkers out there reading my blog that are old friends – shoot me a line, I’d love to catch up.
It’s funny. The one question that I keep getting when I tell people that I am retired is “what are you going to do?”. I don’t have a good answer. There are a lot of things that I would like to do, but I’m not sure that I’m actually going to do them. Some of them cost too much money, some of them take too much time, others require years of preparation and changes in my life that aren’t easy to accomplish. I feel strange talking about those things because I know that I probably won’t do a lot of them and if I do accomplish some, it may not be for years. And, well, right now I am just too darn busy (!!!!) to get to many of those items. I’m beginning to wonder how I ever managed to remain sane with two of us working and our preference to never hire out help around the house. No wonder I was tired and cranky a lot of the time.
The more I think about this, the more I realize that it’s not so much what I am going to do, but what I am trying to accomplish. Goals and actions are quite different. I’m working toward very high level goals – and the actions that are necessary to achieve those goals are merely a byproduct.
- Spend more time with family and friends – Also known as the “no hermit” rule. Unless I can’t actually do something I plan on accepting every invitation that comes my way.
- Work only with people I respect and trust – Over time, I plan on doing a little consulting for “toy money”. I will only take on assignments with people I genuinely like working with and who I trust.
- Stay healthy and fit – Good whole foods comprised mostly of fruits, veggies, nuts and grains. Exercise – and lots of it. This might not be a structured program anymore, but whatever seems like fun at the time. Hiking, biking, kayaking, volleyball, weight training and so on. The number on the scale doesn’t really matter as long as I feel good.
- Become more aware of the world around me – In other words, continue to learn. This touches everything. I’ve started a list of all of the different varieties of birds that I see in my yard. I’m reading a lot more classic literature. I’m learning more about other people’s political biases that I had previously dismissed.
- Bring creativity and fun to what I do – You can never have too much fun – and every task no matter how mundane can be filled with creativity. Check out this fruit bowl that I made over the weekend. I could have just chopped up some fruit for a party that I was going to, but instead I spent part of my day learning how to make something that would delight the eye.
The thing that I like best about my goals is that even if I do a little bit more than I did in the past, I will consider myself successful. If I pick something like “hike the Appalacian Trail” (which quite frankly I would like to do, but it is just not feasible right now) and I don’t get to it, I’ll feel like a failure. In my work life I always thought that very specific goals were most important because they gave me something to shoot for. In my retired life – it’s just the opposite. The joy is in the journey. I’m picking goals that bring more joy to my life and less “gotta accomplish this” stress. How refreshing!