End of Year Roundup

Well, here we go. What was accomplished this past year?

  • Tweets – 68. (does anyone care? really?)
  • Unique bird species identified this year – 65.
  •  Books read – 37.
  • Blog posts written – 26.
  • New window blinds installed – 13.
  • Nerf darts lost in the house, carried off by cats – 10.
  • Pampas grass clumps removed – 3 , pickup truck loads to the dump – 6.
  • Bedrooms painted – 5.
  • Rooms with new hardwood floors – 4.
  • Places lived – 3.
  • Jobs quit – 2.
  • Negative endoscopy results – 1. Priceless.

So far jumping off the hamster wheel of work has worked out pretty well for me. Let’s hope that 2012 brings more happiness and fulfillment.

Fun In the Garden

I really have to get better at photo documentation of the projects around here. This week we tackled one of two overgrown planting beds in front of our house.

Here is what the planting bed looked like when we first had it landscaped. Aren’t those plants cute?

 

 

Here’s another view from the upstairs deck. You can barely tell that there are two palm trees in there. The bushes all look lost.

 

 

After 6 years and the addition of a sago palm as an accent plant in the front of the bed, the picture isn’t as pretty. The bed closest to the street looks like this.

 

The one closer to the house is also a big disaster. Sometimes I think that landscapers should be shot. What was he thinking when he put that many plants into the beds? Either start with much bigger plants or warn the homeowner that half of them need to go!

Out came the bypass loppers, the pickax, the chainsaw and the shovel. The two palm trees were planted much too close together. The bigger one needed to move to the back of the bed, and the sago palm which is no longer the size of a tidy houseplant needed to be placed front and center. The variegated Golden Euonymus needed to be replanted. The crepe myrtle was invisible and had to be moved to the back yard. We have been hacking at those plants for years, but we never addressed the main problem – there were just too many of them out there!

I’m not sure if you’ve ever tried to relocate a palm tree. I guess we waited too long. A friend of ours with a nursery said the trees have a small root ball and that they were “easy” to move. Easy is relative, he owns a bobcat. We dug them up by hand… and found out that the fire ant nest there that we thought we had killed was still active. JOY! That was a nasty surprise. Anyway, once we got the root balls dug, it became evident that two people couldn’t budge them an inch.

Why does gardening at the beach require tow straps and a pickup truck? I will never know. The long and short of it is that we had to drag the trees using the truck to their new homes. I wish I captured pictures of this endeavor. It was quite exciting!

In the end, the front island now looks much better. It is still awaiting some pansies and a thick coat of mulch for the winter, but it is almost done! I hope that we didn’t upset the palm trees too much with the relocation.

A Green Legacy

It has been more than 8 years since my mom passed away, and there’s rarely a day that I don’t remember her and what I consider to be her legacy. My mom was an avid gardener who had an amazing green thumb. It didn’t matter what kind of plant – house plant, shrub, vegetable, herb or flower, she could coax it to grow. Over the 40 years she lived in the house I grew up in, she created a yard full of perennial flower beds that was a joy to behold. In our house, there never was a need to go buy flowers for special occasions. All you had to do was stroll outside in the yard with a pair of scissors and within a few minutes a glorious bouquet could be collected. In the spring and summer whenever we were invited to visit with friends, some flowers or a plant from the garden always came along as a gift.

My mother taught me a lot about gardening. Until recently I never realized just how much. I don’t have the green thumb that my mother had, but I get by reasonably well.

Because of working in the garden with her, I can identify many plants by sight. If I can’t, I take it upon myself to figure out what the plant is and add it to my mental catalogue. This is obviously part of my data collection personality trait, but the love of gardening came from her.

The most important lesson that I learned about gardening from my mother did not have to do with how to cultivate plants or how to amend soil. What I learned is that a garden can only become a legacy if you share it. Every where that I have lived, my mom brought me plants from her garden to grow in mine. A lot of those plants have been left behind as I moved from place to place. My mother traded plants with a lot of her friends too. Plants are forever seeding themselves, or needing to be thinned out. If you let a garden get overgrown it will eventually die due to overcrowding. By sharing plants with friends you aren’t only helping their gardens become more interesting, you are also helping yours stay healthy.

Strangely, I find comfort in sharing my plants with friends. Most of the plants I share came from my mother’s garden which sadly is long gone. This is my way of keeping her legacy, and a little bit of my mother herself alive.


Some burgundy irises at my last house that my mom gave to me.

What is Your Legacy?

Lately I’ve had a lot of disconnected thoughts about my contribution to society. Some people out there – wow – you don’t even have to think twice about what they have done.

  • Bill Gates – Microsoft is just a teeny part of his legacy, his real work is with the Bill & Melinda Gates foundation.
  • Steve Jobs – Elegance in engineering. Near perfection.
  • Mother Theresa – Humanitarian and advocate for the poor and helpless.

I have to stop with this list or I will get totally discouraged. I know I should be inspired, but some of their contributions are so overwhelming that the little that I can do in my own backyard seems insignificant. It also can be hard to fit anything else into my day to day activities. I think most of us are in that boat. We live our insulated lives, we get up, brush our teeth and head off to work, we take care of our houses and our families and before we know it the day is done and we wake again another day to do it all over again. I’ve definitely had the strange feeling of living in the movie Groundhog Day. Here we go again…

I don’t want to keep living like that. So now what? I am, trying to figure out what I’ve done so far that has provided value and what I can do going forward that will make a difference. Being an introvert I could happily just sit in my chair and read books until I die, but to what end? Would that be a waste of life? It would bring me pleasure, but shouldn’t we all strive to make our society better in some way? Does it matter if it is big or small? I hope not.

Where am I?

Have you ever found yourself half way through the new year and you manage to write last year when you pay a bill via check? I think we’ve all been there at some point, although these days I tend to do a lot more electronically than ever before so it is a lot less likely that I will make this mistake.

That said, last week I made a mistake like this of epic proportions. I moved out of my house in Raleigh about 2.5 months ago… Well, somehow I managed to use my old address when I ordered something online. The funny part is that I used our new zip code, which is probably what got me through the billing address info for the credit card to be “ok”. Wow. I can’t say that I’ve ever done anything like that before.

I received an e-mail from the new homeowners last week letting me know that a package arrived for me at their house. OOPS! I went back and checked the receipt I printed out when I ordered, and sure enough, I botched the address royally. I guess some things just are indelibly burned into my working memory. It is pretty funny the number of things that happen on auto-pilot that we don’t even realize.

Thankfully I think that we managed develop a good relationship with the new owners of our old house through the buying/selling process. We loved that house, and we wanted the new folks to feel the same way, so we really did our best to make them feel at home. When we moved out, we left them a long note about the house, a bottle of wine, and we even left a whole stack of manuals and other information about the items installed in the house that sold with it. I hope my little transgression wasn’t too much of an inconvenience for them.

Social Media Saves the Day

Well, I have some very good news. After blogging and tweeting about my experience with Time Warner Cable last week I was contacted by one of their social media representatives on Wednesday. Julie was very empathetic with the situation that I was in and assured me that someone at the local office would be made aware of what had transpired and that the problem would be addressed. She was responsive over twitter and also communicated with me via e-mail.

Late last Friday afternoon (after normal business hours) I received a call from Karen who was part of Time Warner’s collections group. She was wonderful to deal with and said that because of my experience, account auditing that uncovers equipment discrepancies after many years will be escalated and handled differently. I’m not sure how TWC is planning on changing their processes, but they agreed with me that it is unreasonable to expect a customer to keep a receipt for an equipment turn-in that happened years ago.

Whew! What a relief. I was so happy to hear that my dad’s account would not be charged. I was also very happy to hear this news before the weekend so I didn’t have to worry about it until the next business week.

This week I received written confirmation that my father’s account was in good standing and that the equipment charges would be waived. Thank you Time Warner Cable for doing the right thing.

I do worry however about those people in similar situations – not just with Time Warner – but with any vendor that provides equipment in the home. I think that most elderly people would just pay the bill because they wouldn’t have an advocate to push for them. I hope that when I’m getting old and frail that I have someone who will look out for me someday. Not having any kids makes that situation much more tenuous.

A Very Good Week

Things are really starting to come together around here. It’s not quite as bad as this anymore, but here’s another “what doesn’t belong” picture of the living room.
Yeah, I know what you’re thinking… what the F is a toilet bowl doing in the living room. It’s new, I swear, never been used. We replaced two of our toilets with dual flush models to save water since it is so expensive here on the island. It isn’t still standing in the living room, it is installed.

Two of our guest bedrooms are finished. They have hardwoods, they have been painted, the new blinds are hung and they have been furnished. The only thing missing is the artwork – still in storage. One bedroom has a king bed in it, the other has a queen. I won’t add pictures of them because they are pretty boring. It is hard to take good pictures of bedrooms. A third bedroom has hardwood floors and the trim has been painted. The fourth has 2/3′s of a floor installed so far. We made a lot of progress on the bedrooms.


The really really big news is that the new range has arrived! It was delivered on Tuesday. I felt sorry for the poor guys who had to carry it up two flights of stairs. These professional ranges weigh a ton.


Hubby did the gas hookup and after a couple of redos to make sure the range could be pushed back into place we finally were able to cook breakfast on it this morning! We had grits and home fries. Finally! I could actually cook in my pots and pans again instead of the microwave and an electric skillet.

Here is the final product! One big project is now finished. Between cutting out and re-doing some of the backsplash tile, replacing the duct work and hanging a new hood, ordering and waiting for the range and installing it – my kitchen is a lot closer to being finished. (last step… maybe a new fridge??)To compare it to what the kitchen used to look like click here.

Last but not least, the office is almost finished. YAY!
This turned out to be a bit of a one step forward two steps back process, but the bookshelf over the desk has been hung. If you look very closely in the picture you’ll notice that is “just fits” on the wall. This shelf was built years ago for a wall in our old house in Raleigh. It is within 1/16″ of the size of the space here. Amazing – it looks like it was made for the room. Too bad we had to tear off the moulding on two doors in order to have a chance to get it into its place. Now, we can finally take all of those boxes of books we’ve been shuffling around in the storage unit and put them in their rightful place on the bookshelf!

In a nutshell, that was our very productive week. It was awesome!

Shame on YOU Time Warner Cable!

Today I received a call from Time Warner Cable (TWC) about my dad’s Cable TV account, and let me tell you, it was infuriating. I hardly even know where to begin. It will take more self control than I probably have right now not to drop a few f-bombs in this post. Forgive me, someone is trying to take advantage of my daddy.

When I first signed up my dad for Cable TV they were running a special that required him to get a DVR. He didn’t need a DVR – and frankly we didn’t want him to get a DVR because with his dementia he could never figure it out. When that special offer ended we hastily traded that DVR in for a regular cable box. Over time, we downgraded his digital cable to regular cable because he just didn’t watch it much anyway. At that point a technician came to his room in assisted living and took back his cable box. This was about 2 YEARS ago. I vaguely remember being peeved at my dad for not getting a receipt for the box – but I also vaguely remember getting a receipt so I can’t say either way what really happened on those two transactions. It was a long time ago.

Fast forward to today. I got a call from “Tiffany” at Time Warner who claims that although the digital cable package was dropped from his account, his DVR(!!!) was never turned back in. Huh? When I mumbled something about probably having dropped it off, she replied – oh we don’t have a drop off location. Huh, that’s very odd. Every time I’ve tried to downgrade my service I’ve had to turn in a box BEFORE TWC would even consider adjusting my package. Now they’re just willy-nilly changing service without a tech coming to pick up a box? I highly doubt it.

“Tiffany” wants me to PROVE that we turned in the box by producing a receipt for it – or we’ll have to pay for it. I don’t know about you, but I go through my paperwork every year and shred things that don’t have long term tax implications. Sorry, TWC is not the IRS. Needless to say, that receipt probably has gone to the big shred box in the sky. The other option is that it is in storage with all of my other crap that hasn’t moved yet.

When I asked “Tiffany” how long I had to produce said receipt, she said I had a week. A WEEK??? Are you kidding me? It took you guys TWO YEARS to realize that your company didn’t properly close out the equipment for my dad’s account and I get one week to find ancient paperwork? I asked for two months and we got into a protracted argument that ended up with a 3 week time frame after I repeatedly asked to speak with her supervisor (which she refused!).

It gets better. I figured it would be impossible for me to find the receipt because of its age and the condition of our things in the move. So, I made the mistake of asking what we would be charged for this piece of equipment. $250 – $400! What the F@#$@#! That is about what my dad pays every month for his medications. Do I need to remind you that he’s on a small fixed income? “Tiffany”, I know that in your job you probably get measured by how many boxes you recover and how much additional revenue you generate, but sometimes you need to have some empathy.

He got this DVR in 2007, I’ll give TWC the benefit of the doubt that he actually got a new piece of equipment (HA!). It is at least 4 years old and in technology terms it is a piece of obsolete junk. Even if it is still used in their network the price should be reduced to its depreciated value. Funny thing is that equipment like this was probably depreciated by TWC within its first year of being in service. I highly doubt it has more than a 5 year depreciation schedule and that would be stretching things. Never mind that any company that can take immediate depreciation on equipment will do so – it is just good business sense.

I hate to say it, but most TWC installers that I’ve seen are contractors. I am sure that most of them are good honest upright folks. However, it would be one heck of a scam to take DVRs, not provide any documentation and resell them on ebay. Old folks in assisted living or nursing home facilities are the perfect target for something like this. Could this be what happened? I guess I’ll never know.

OK Time Warner – I have an idea for you regarding how you can find your DVR. This DVR has a MAC address associated with it – otherwise you wouldn’t be able to download software upgrades to it over your network. I’ve worked on Cable technology in a past life, I know… Why don’t you go out on your network and just disable it. I’m sure it will turn up through a service call sooner rather than later.

I know my dad enjoys watching TV, but I am probably going to cancel his TWC account. He has plenty of DVDs that he can watch instead. You might have won the battle, but in terms of long term recurring revenue you are about to lose the war unless someone in customer service will make this go away tomorrow. Heck, there’s a really good chance that you’ll lose my account too – and I pay for a lot more features than he does. As long as I can get high speed internet I don’t need cable TV anymore. In our move we got rid of all but 1 TV. It’s just not that important in our house.

Shame on you Time Warner Cable – stop picking on an old man. Since when are people in their 80′s with dementia a mark for corporations? It’s almost like dealing with a con man.

To see how this situation was resolved (YAY!), read this post: Social Media Saves the Day.

Living the High Life

I had to share one picture of what my living room currently looks like. I think it can be used as one of those pictures I used to find in Highlights Magazine when I was a kid. “Identify what is out of place!”

I’ll give you one. There’s a queen mattress and box spring in the corner.

Hopefully this won’t last too much longer and I’ll finally get my couch out of storage.

NC House passes marriage amendment bill

I think I am going to be sick. As reported on the local Raleigh station’s website WRAL “The North Carolina House of Representatives voted Monday to put a ban on same-sex marriage before voters next year. After 3 1/2 hours of debate, 75 legislators voted in favor of the bill which would ask voters to amend the state constitution to define marriage as between one man and one woman.”

Really? Do we have to come to this? What gives us the right to legislate what two consenting adults do in their own homes? I would argue that many gay and lesbian relationships are a lot more like a real marriage than some straight marriages I’ve seen. Why can’t we as a nation separate church and state and let people get on with their lives?

I’m tired of friends leaving the state – or even the country – to get married only to have their marriage be unrecognized by our government. Most of my gay and lesbian friends have been together for more than 10 years. They are in stable, happy, committed relationships. Some of them are raising children together. Their lives really aren’t any different than yours or mine. They love their partners. They cooperate with one another on the usual daily routines. Their relationships have the same ups and downs as anyone would expect. Why do we have to differentiate because of their gender?

My state embarrasses me with this bill. We need to vote it down.